Achieving Normal...

How does one define normality? There are many opinions as to what qualifies as normal behavior, activities, moods, or lifestyles. Well, for me, normal is what gets you peaceful, mindless at times, and best of all what feels familiar.

Dad passed away 2 weeks ago on the 18th of June. It was a blessing and a relief by the time it happened. He is certainly much better off. The family will miss him forever, but we are comforted in the knowledge that we will see him again in the hereafter.

My mother & I have discussed the behavior side of normalcy. Are we behaving as people expect us to? Is it ok to be smiling & laughing? Should my face be somber? Very confusing.

I have certain friends who have been there for me during this entire process. They all fit into different categories. I would be able to talk to all of them about the process I have endured but it is in the way I speak with them that is different. Sometimes that difference is initiated by me, and sometimes by the needs of the friend.

There are some who are my "take me away from this" friends. They send me jokes or make me laugh or just listen to my inane blathering on a message or text. You know who you are and how you all fit into my life.

Some friends of mom's friends have wanted to get right in my face and "discuss" the issues...I'm sorry, have we met...?? Some advice if you are unsure what to say or do when a friend goes through a trama/tragedy...Just be there, just be yourself, There are no "right" things to say also no "wrong" things to say when the intent is good.

Just be ...normal...